View PDF/ Spanish
.:MY JEHOVAH’S WITNESS GIRLFRIEND STOPPED DATING ME BECAUSE I AM NOT A BAPTIZED JEHOVAH’S WITNESS. WHAT CAN I DO?
We feel for where you are in this. Indeed, you are suffering from a broken heart. We agree with you that a person who is truly in love with another person should be able to put their relationship with that person before any commitment to a human organization (such as the Watchtower Society). The Bible is clear that God did not institute a religious organization to save mankind, but rather an individual – Jesus Christ— Who paid the price for sin so that those who place their faith and trust in Him alone can be forgiven and have eternal life (1 Corinthians 15:1-4; 1 John 5:11-13; Romans 10:9). No religious organization can intercede between you and Jehovah God, because the Bible declares that the Lord Jesus Christ is to be the ONLY mediator between mankind and God (1 Timothy 2:5).
We also agree with you that if your beliefs are in agreement with the Bible and you have put your trust in the Jesus of Bible (not the counterfeit Jesus of the Watchtower) to save you, this is what is important for any marriage relationship to have a solid foundation. Just as the Bible says at 1 Corinthians 3:11: “For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.”
Unfortunately, what you are telling us about how your Jehovah’s Witness girlfriend is putting her religion and the feelings of her parents over your relationship is serious. Indeed, she does not understand that according to the Bible, if your beliefs are in agreement and grounded in the Bible, this is all that should matter—whether or not you are committed by baptism to a religious organization (such as the Jehovah’s Witnesses). But what you are seeing with her is just the beginning of a deep-rooted aspect of the Jehovah’s Witness religion that would affect any long-term relationship with her if she remains a committed Jehovah’s Witness. So, before you pursue your romantic feelings for her further, you need to understand these facts about the Jehovah’s Witness religion:
As you can see, if your girlfriend wishes to remain loyal to her Jehovah’s Witness faith, you both would have to make serious compromises in your religious convictions before a committed marriage relationship would be possible. Our hope and prayer is that you would study the Bible and reevaluate her Jehovah’s Witness religion with a goal of winning her heart to make a commitment to the true Jesus of the Bible, before you go any further in studying with Jehovah’s Witnesses and pursuing a romantic relationship with your Jehovah’s Witness girlfriend.
FOR MORE INFORMATION SEE:
They are all there for me!
“I had Jehovah’s Witnesses visiting for six years. … The sad thing is now I have their beliefs in my head. So I put myself into God’s hands and asked for direction. …Well, the feeling of freedom is amazing. I am like a child, learning again for the first time. The reason I had to write to you was the Karen and Cindy conversations. Instead of me asking for help, one question at a time, they are all there for me!! It seems as if ‘Karen’ could read my mind.It’s so lovely for things to fall into place, mainly that ‘What happens when we die?’ This was a very big issue for me. I was scared while I did not understand even the tiny bit I do now. It’s such a joy. Instead of feeling unworthy(were all sinners I know) and feeling I would never be saved or go to Heaven. So, please thank God and Jesus with me for such help.”
I have to tell you how your website saved my life.
“I have been a baptized Witness since 1995, and I have to tell you how you have saved my life. Every couple of years I get this gnawing sense that this is not quite right, that I am not 100% vested in what the Watchtower Society says. …Lately, I have stopped attending meetings and my daughter, 13, has begged me not to make her go back. So I have been praying and chatting with friends outside the organization……I can’t tell you my sense of relief when I stumbled upon your site and started to read the articles. I want to cry, but I’m at work. I can’t wait to get home because I am so excited I can barely stand it! Please, please, how can I meet others who feel this way? I sure could use the fellowship. Again, thanks for the work you do.”
God bless you for the difference you are making.
“My brother and I were raised by a Jehovah's Witness mother. I am 52 years old now and still haven't been able to shake the stigma of the experience. My brother wasn't as lucky as me and ended up taking his own life at 17. I have been through everything ... I can't express how much I appreciate what you are doing... God bless for the difference you are making.”
I do not feel so alone!
“Thank you for creating this website. After reading stories of former Jehovah's Witnesses, I do not feel so alone. My resolve to stay out of that religion has also strengthened. I have also come to realize that my depression, anxiety, and many other emotional scars inflicted by the organization and those in the ‘truth’ will take time to heal. But your website has also come to help me ... Thank you.”
Just as I was about to enter the Jehovah’s Witnesses again, God led me to your website.
“Hi…I am an Ex-Jehovah’s Witness from South Africa. ...I left the Jehovah’s Witnesses not because I did not agree with their beliefs, but because my wife could not handle it with me being a Jehovah’s Witness and she not. I became an anti-religious person. Then, just as I was about to enter the Jehovah’s Witnesses again, God led me to your website… Today, I prayed to Jesus for salvation after I read your article on your website…”
I’m so glad that I have run across this site.
“After reading the article that David Reed wrote on your site, I’ve looked at things in ‘a new light’ so-to-speak. ...I’m so glad that I have run across this site. I’m sure that it was the Holy Spirit that directed me to all of you!”
Your website is a great source for truth
“Your website is a great source for those seriously seeking the truth.… The Jehovah’s Witness elders shun me. I’ve known these guys for 30 years... Well, when I walk into the Hall they turn their backs to me. I have not seen my Jehovah’s Witness ex-wife, or daughter for two years. ...They hide my family from me. When I go to their homes, they smile with arms folded and say nothing.
The stories I read at your website were loud and clear - conditional love by the ‘brothers’! I have learned more in the Christian Church about unconditional love than 30 years as a Witness. When I accepted Christ, who He really is, the Holy Spirit opened my eyes to see both sides clearly. ...Without the Holy Spirit it is impossible to know the real TRUTH! Keep up your good work.”